Now that your profile looks good, it's time to start talking to people. Writing the first message can be a bit of a minefield, but fortunately, transgender dating means you have a chance to plan ahead. It's hard to know what to write, but there are some simple rules to follow. Avoid sending the same message to everyone -- a situation so common on trans dating sites that you might be overlooked. Pay attention to the details of your profile and find out your hobbies, likes and dislikes. Let them know you're interested in them by asking questions.